Parental or professional opinions?

My dad has married a woman that was raised to basically be a princess and is very spoiled, inconsiderate, rude, walks around with her nose in the air, and complains about every little thing. She seems to have this attitude that if it doesn't fit with what she agrees with, she'll yell, scream, slam doors, point fingers, etc, etc. She has two kids, a 7 year old girl (which is equally as spoiled as she is) and a 11 year old boy. These kids are very sheltered, spoiled and are raised to not have to lift a finger. They do things that I would consider inappropriate, for example, The mother will rub on her 11 year old son's face, softly. She holds his hands in hers and will run her fingers down his fingers, he'll lay his head on her lap and she'll rub on his ears. This boy is so sensitive, he is a huge cry baby, he doesn't have much toughness in him like a young man should have. Maybe I don't like this woman because how she is, or how she raises her kids. But I can't stand seeing kids raised the way she is bringing them up to be. I try to help encourage him to be tougher, which has helped a lot, but certain things I don't agree with, Like him having a night light because he's afraid of the dark. I am very anti-night light, I dont think parents should raise their kids with night lights. I worked with an elderly lady that was still afraid of the dark at her age. I think "babying" children to much causes problems with their ego's, self-esteem, courage, etc. She says "its a mothers love" or that "A mothers love can never be matched" and has even tried using scripture to justify what she's doing (which by the way, the bible shows NOTHING about what she's doing is right, if anything it encourages parents to their kids when they need it). She says its "a mothers love", I call it a perverted love. Its sickening to be around this family. And I know, I'm sure i'll get messages saying i'm to hard, or that i'm a jerk, this and that, but that's not logical so I don't care to hear that. Any opinions?